How a Sermon by Apostle Selman Helped Me Heal Beyond Revenge
I remember the exact moment my heart shattered. This wasn’t just ordinary sadness, it was the kind of gut-wrenching betrayal that shakes you to your core. My ex had wronged me in ways that felt like a deliberate attempt to break me emotionally. And for a while, I wanted revenge.
I entertained those thoughts like a toxic comfort food. I felt cheated, used, disrespected. And I carried that offense like a badge of honor.
Then, a random reel popped up on my feed: “How to Overcome the Spirit of Offense” by Apostle Joshua Selman. Something in me paused. I clicked, watched the snippet, and immediately searched for the full message on YouTube.
That Message? It Was for Me
Apostle Selman spoke about offense as a trap ,how holding onto it is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer. He explained that offense doesn’t just break relationships; it breaks your alignment with destiny.
Then he said something that changed everything:
“People are not perfect, but you must choose to be free. You must choose healing over hurting back.”
That was it. I cried ! not just over the heartbreak, but because I had let offense take up permanent residence in my heart. I had been carrying a burden that wasn’t mine to bear anymore.
What Changed
Now? I won’t pretend life doesn’t still test me. People still try me. But I’m different. The offense doesn’t grip me the same way anymore. Not because people got better but because I got lighter.
I no longer want to clap back, retaliate, or prove a point. My peace speaks louder than any drama.
A Gentle Word to Anyone Struggling with Offense
If you’re holding onto pain, resentment, or the urge to get even, I urge you to listen to that sermon.
Offense is sneaky. It disguises itself as righteous anger, but beneath it? It’s just another chain. Let it go. Free yourself.
Healing isn’t a one-time choice, it’s a journey.
So, stay with me. Let’s keep talking about it.
Watch the full message here: *How to Overcome the Spirit of Offense* – Apostle Joshua Selman

